Fearless Love

An elderly couple, living in a rural area of the state, died this week. Their neighbors, who spoke kindly of them, were unsettled by the departure. The husband called 9-1-1 to report a mercy killing. When the police arrived at their residence the door was locked. Once they gained entry they found husband and wife in bed, dead from gunshot wounds.

My husband and I discussed their method of expiration. We imagine that one or the other of them was incapacitated to a degree that they could no longer care for each other independently. It seems they couldn’t live without each other so they chose not to. They were private people, who elected to manage their ending personally.

This is a topic we discuss frequently. It is not an uplifting discussion. My husband is resistant to it (men being especially ill-equipped to face mortality) but I persevere in an effort to prepare and protect us. He has become, if not more comfortable, certainly more familiar with our plan. My hope is that we will go quietly, in our sleep, at the same time. My husband isn’t capable of a mercy killing. I have complete faith in my homicidal abilities, merciful or otherwise. My husband has been perilously close to an early out on a few occasions. He is less patient than I am but indisputably more tolerant.

We are not alone in discussing reciprocal euthanasia. Most of my female friends have a plan; typically, their partners are squeamish.  There is actually an industry developing around suicide  for the terminally ill (PBS/Frontline had a piece on it). It troubles me that we, as individuals, are left to bumble about conceiving unrefined plans. It’s really not something we can practice now is it? I don’t want our family to remember us in a state of disarray but there is not a legally accepted alternative.

Death is a natural event. It happens to everyone. It would be so much easier for us all if we could approach it pragmatically and discuss it openly. Not one of us can remember where we were before we were born so it doesn’t seem that whatever happens after we die can be all that bad. The elderly husband, who extended mercy to his wife and took his leave immediately after her, knew there was nothing to be afraid of.



About elroyjones

Equal Elroy, searching for the best answer.
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1 Response to Fearless Love

  1. Peggy says:

    I love this. Thanks.

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