The trust in confided vulnerability should never be compromised during a romantic argument. An irrational proclamation, “Everyone hates you and they think you’re a condescending snob!” is forgivable. “You’re a gutless failure for being afraid of your boss!” is tasteless and demeaning. It is a statement that diminishes the person one loves, and shatters trust, while revealing one in a particularly unflattering light.
Trust that one’s partner will accept one’s frailties and shortcomings creates strength and endurance in the union. Acceptance is vastly different from understanding. There are behaviors that defy analysis, unreasonable beliefs that seem almost delusional, established neuroses that are the glue that keeps the personality intact. Comprehension is unnecessary; acceptance is essential.
Nothing can replace the comfort of acceptance; unconditional love wrapped securely around one’s unique foibles, opening the heart that trust calls home.