Secure Home

The trust in confided vulnerability should never be compromised during a romantic argument. An irrational proclamation, “Everyone hates you and they think you’re a condescending snob!” is forgivable. “You’re a gutless failure for being afraid of your boss!” is tasteless and demeaning. It is a statement that diminishes the person one loves, and shatters trust, while revealing one in a particularly unflattering light.

Trust that one’s partner will accept one’s frailties and shortcomings creates strength and endurance in the union. Acceptance is vastly different from understanding. There are behaviors that defy analysis, unreasonable beliefs that seem almost delusional, established neuroses that are the glue that keeps the personality intact. Comprehension is unnecessary; acceptance is essential.

Nothing can replace the comfort of acceptance; unconditional love wrapped securely around one’s unique foibles, opening the heart that trust calls home.

About elroyjones

Married, no children, responsibly self-directed, living happily.
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2 Responses to Secure Home

  1. Unconditional love is awesome. And I believe the old cliche “there is no place like home’ has its roots in home being thought of as a place of pure acceptance. Unless your in a bad marriage, that is, and in that case, there is no place like a clean hotel room. But that’s a story for another time.

    I am going to respectfully disagree with “Everyone hates you and they think you’re a condescending snob” is worse than “You’re a gutless failure for being afraid of your boss!” . For *me* personally, #1 is worse. It implies people are talking about me. It implies I have the disapproval of many. I don’t like being the subject of gossip. Number 2 is your opinion alone, which i can chose to invalidate easier than a bunch of veiled strangers. But that is just me! interesting post!

  2. elroyjones says:

    I am a mere shell of the independent woman I used to be. A lot of my posts are inspired by my husband and the great good fortune we’ve had in our alliance.

    Respectful disagreement is a GOOD thing, shows the grey matter is still functional!

    I laugh out loud at your blog posts, snuffling and snorting and hooting with delight.

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