I live at 44° 24′N but my imaginary world is somewhere between 2° 47′N and 43° 39′N. I am happily engaged in a continuing struggle, with a worthy opponent, for control in a marriage that defines who I believe I am.

My past is littered with bad decisions and selfish choices. I own them; they’re mine because I have paid dearly for them.  I’m easily pleased by simple moments and sincere gestures. To paraphrase an obscure, red-haired, philosopher: I live the life I love, nobody else has to like it.


52 Responses to About

  1. Peggy Stevens says:

    Where are these coordinates: 2° 47′N and 43° 39′N? I think this speaks appropiately to who you are and it is honest and direct. However, you might point out that without the so called “bad decisions and selfish choices,” you would not be the person you are today – a person worthy of happiness and contentment and one who can make apologies when needed.

  2. It is very refreshing to hear someone say “they are mine” without blaming anybody for anything.
    I do hope you will win the control fight 😉

    • elroyjones says:

      I’m never gonna win the control fight because I have sweetly allowed my husband a handicap (SPOILED by several points) to make up for my unfair advantage and superior skill. It’s okay because, being a mere human, I occasionally play that card when I want him to participate in something he’s not interested in.

      Owning mistakes or even calculated bad behavior is part of life. This is not say that I am not RAVAGED by guilt from past transgressions. There are a few things I wish I had not done, mostly because my actions worried or hurt someone else. Being quite a ways from the pinnacle of my own personal evolution, there are some diabolical plans I wish had followed through. Every day presents the renewed goal to be a better person and a reason get out of bed and get on with it!

  3. etomczyk says:

    This is one of the best “About Me” I’ve ever read. It’s very poetic and tells the reader, you are probably one of the ones who has something to say. I came by you via another blog. Glad I did. We have similar storytelling anchors only I’m a humorist storyteller. All the best. I’ll be back.

  4. Okelle says:

    You live in India?

  5. judithatwood says:

    Hi, elroyjones! Thanks for stopping by my blog, and thanks for the Like. I hope we’ll see you back there soon! Welcome!

  6. webnerbob says:

    Elroy, I just wanted to say that your blog is really terrific! Great reading. WB

  7. Hi Elroy,

    When I commented on your comment on Chris’ post (http://misslisted.com/2012/03/04/aforementioned-bedraggled-blog-post-about-rule-following-by-harsh-self-critic/), your second response, too, (below) cracked me up !

    >I’m known for editing adages to suit my agenda too.

    – So I came snooping around your site to find out more about the person behind the frankness and humour. And I found this other gleaming fact here:

    >My past is littered with bad decisions and selfish choices. I own them; they’re mine because I have paid dearly for them.

    – I say ‘gleaming’ because you haven’t tried to sweep this part of your life under the carpet. It’s out there for all of us to see. And you benefit the most from the unabashed display.

    Only when we look at ourselves in a non-critical fashion like you are doing, can we learn from that mistake or poor choice. If these issues are swept under the carpet, they won’t be very lonely because there’ll be more and more mistakes joining the earlier mistakes only because we did not acknowledge, confront and therefore, learn from those earlier ones.

    So you not only made me laugh twice earlier, you’ve now made me break into a happy smile for you, Elroy.

    Thank you also for inadvertently reminding me where I can shove the next mistake I make – In. My Face. 🙂 That is the only way it will gleam and light up a better path for me in future.


    P.S.: Your ‘Coerced Acknowledgments’ is a novel and fun tab, too.

    • Elroy, please correct that grammatical oversight. I meant ‘is’, not ‘are’ below.

      >P.S.: Your ‘Coerced Acknowledgments’ IS a novel and fun tab, too.



      • elroyjones says:

        Oh boy Kate, you’ve raised the bar. You are more OCD than I am. I sometimes wish I could have my comment errors corrected but I’ve shied away from actually making the request. Now that you’ve gone and done it, and I’ve become complicit in the activity, there’ll be no stopping me!

  8. >You are more OCD than I am.
    – Happy to relieve of that, um, mantle, Elroy!

    I love words. If I make a mistake and there’s a way to rectify it, I do it. Like I did with my second comment. I do not worry about people’s opinions because everyone is entitled to one. When it’s different from mine, viva la difference!

    The other reason that knocks down similar apprehensions for me is another motto I try to follow – to thine own self be true.

    >I sometimes wish I could have my comment errors corrected but I’ve shied away from actually making the request.
    – The only thing that would make me hesitate with a request like mine would be if I thought it were too much trouble for the author/blogger. I noticed how you responded to every comment and hence, assumed it would not be too much trouble for you to correct my error.

    On a more commercial site, I think I would leave a follow-up comment with the correction; no request to rectify to the author.

    >Now that you’ve gone and done it, and I’ve become complicit in the activity, there’ll be no stopping me!
    – So my request turned out to be even better! Because now you’re going to do the same yourself!

    And if anyone ever responds to that request of yours with a less than gracious retort about your pet peeve(s), remember your motto – I live the life I love, nobody else has to like it.


  9. Isla White says:

    Hi there, really enjoy reading your blogs they always make me smile. I have been doing a post for the Versatile Blogger Award Nominations and have nominated you as a potential candidate. If you are interested in taking part you can see the details on this link:


  10. Good afternoon Elroy. I’ve just nominated you for the TMI Award. Congrats! You don’t have to participate if you don’t want to. Strictly voluntary and no pressure. Click here for info though….

  11. howdy elroy…..came across you on the post of that skeloton guy….glad i did………….indeed i own my mistakes too ….and im very pleased that i do cos in falling down one learns to stand up…….wisdom is knowledge gained from experience…….mistakes are the richest form of knowledge…….if they dont kill you first of course…………

  12. fivereflections says:

    David in Maine USA

  13. I thought I recognized that eye. Pmao. That’s where I saw it. Thanks for stopping by my blog. I’m kinda psyched to check yours out. This is consuming me! If I ever stop reading every blog I come by. Eventually I will have to draw the line. But where? They’s so much out there, and now this! Thanks for more cool stuff. Maybe I need to choose per genre. Huh?

    • elroyjones says:

      It’s so interesting to read what other people think. We have such incredible access to opinions and perspectives. I don’t subscribe to everyone but I stop in to see quite a few bloggers. Good luck with your next endeavor!

  14. webnerbob says:

    EJ, you are great! Thanks for taking the time to give us your thoughts!

    • elroyjones says:

      Well, you know, a world famous blogger and his mysterious celebrity spouse will be on tour this summer and I wanted to do my part. You have been very kind and encouraging to me here in Bloggerville. I had fun doing it, imagining what you and Kish might enjoy. Pack some comfortable clothes in case of drizzle and fog.

  15. webnerbob says:

    EJ, just wanted to drop by to say thanks forever for your EXCELLENT suggestions about places to visit and things to do in Maine. We had a blast, and some fabulous meals, thanks in large part to you. Kish, in particular, enjoyed your suggestions and followed them as if they were Holy Writ. In fact, she promises she might actually write a blog post about her Maine experience. Keep your fingers crossed!

    • elroyjones says:

      As you know, I am always on the alert for any news of the elusive Kish. I will be very excited to read her blog post. I am so happy you had fun. Kish made the best choice in exploring the Stonington-Deer Isle area. I was quite impressed by the cottage in Blue Hill, especially the little porch with the clothes hanging out to dry. Kish will quickly attract followers if she posts!

  16. misslisted says:

    Just in case you noticed, I re-did my blogroll a few weeks ago, and somehow didn’t get you back on it…sorry about that, it had something to do with ineptitude, not a desire to expunge you from my blogroll! I always enjoy your posts, especially the ones where you tell stories about your life, and your past and so on…

  17. Hi there – am enjoying your blog. I found you through Richard Daybell’s blog — I was as annoyed as you were by the wait for each installment! Look forward to checking back in with you as election season wears on…

  18. Jive Turkish says:

    I enjoy your writing voice. I just stumbled here today but I’ll be back. 🙂

  19. Runoffwriter says:

    I dig this. It’s unique and real. And that last sentiment is one I’ve been realizing to a great extent lately…

    Well done.

  20. ellebonze says:

    Thank you for the sweet comments on my blog today. I’ve loved reading these bits of yours. I’ll surely be back. We know each other, from somewhere, I’m certain!

  21. helenmidgley says:

    I love the sentiment of your burb, lol 🙂

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  23. Who’s the red-headed philosopher?

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